The three types of people and fear - Part 1

Let me start with a personal note. I was watching the famous Harishchandrachi Factory, a Marathi movie based on the famous man Phalke, the father of Indian Film Industry. I was so inspired from his life for he never gave up even in the toughest situation, and always smiled ahead of his troubles. The true story was so fascinating, but I got depressed as soon as I had a word about it to my mother. She suddenly quoted, “He is an idiot! What did he do apart from making movies? Back then it must have been possible, now it isn’t. His wife was a fool, he was a fool. Don’t learn from him.”

The whole conversation made me feel really bad, but later on I started to think deep about what she said. It was right around the time when I finished reading the famous book THINK AND GROW RICH by Napoleon Hills, which discussed about the fears faced by people and ways of successes anyone could achieve. Combining both the experiences, here I am, discussing the basic insecurities faced by people before any venture. Before starting, let me define the three kinds of people around us.

You know these people. You had been around them, and you are one of them. Who you are may be defined by the choice you take over what you want to do. The famous quote from the movie BATMAN BEGINS that says ‘It is not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you’ is a statement well said and true by all means. Unless you are keen to show who you underneath, the world will define you on how you act in front of them. And in the general mode, we can define people into three.

Before getting ahead, let me state one more thing. These categorizations is purely something derived from my own context, fairly based on Napoleon Hills quotes and several other autobiographies, as those of Gandhi, Anne Frank, Jawaharlal Nehru and so on. Your concept over people may vary. The categorization that I am going to make is purely based upon moments when once has to take decisions.

With these in mind, let me start. You know people around you, and you know how you are to the rest of the world. Generalizing the whole lot, the three divisions of people are:

1) The Weak

These are people who are condemned to live the life in darkness, for they do not possess the courage to do what they have to do. Unfortunately, for these people, fate is much drawn by an internal negative force. They develop their insecurities by themselves and lie within the solitude walls, which condemn them to not move forward. There may be extreme talent within them, but they shall never posses the courage to break the walls and come out to the real world. These can also be people who live within the walls and are not able to see what lies out for them, thinking that what they have is what the best is. But their condition is not as worse as the second type of people.

2) The Downthrown

Now this category is quite special, for they possess the will to break free, but not the courage. These people, unfortunately comprises, the majority of people, which statistically counts to around 80% (13% held by the former category). The downthrown are those mostly influenced by the external negative force, which mostly includes the ones around them. The influence and power the downthrown gives to the one around them greatly affects the further decision they are meant to take for their lives. When this happens they are forced to live a life SUGGESTED by others, and regret in the end of their lives. As painful as it seems, unfortunately most of us follow this suite. The weak when possess the pain for them, the downthrown are forced to take decisions and made to live a cowardly life. And thus we call the third category The Strong.

3) The Strong

Now statistically this category holds just 7% and consists of the least number of people like them. But these are the movers of the society and developers of the world. They call themselves creative artists, innovators and what not, while all they do is listen to their heart ALONE and do what THEY FEEL IS RIGHT, which is a very important aspect for because when 7 out of hundred people stand up against the rest of the world, they are actually helping the rest 93 person by doing so. They defy rules, create charismas suit up for the good. It is these people that one has learned about in their textbooks, heard about from others with envy, seen through videos and felt through their acts of valor and just. Believe it or not, if you go through their life stories you will find one common link…listening to your heart.

Now that the three kinds of people are known, we can see the three types of fears that capture the heart of people. Stay tuned with us…

Screw the educational system

I am not a man against education; if I were, I would not have gone further into seeking knowledge. I am planning to take a different course so that I can learn what I want to learn. No, I am not against education, but I am a man against the present educational system, prevailing in, if I am right, India and Britain primarily.

When I was in school, there were moral ethics. I knew the difference between right and wrong. When teachers taught me, I would be able to grasp them and understand them to the fullest. School was a time when I could learn something more from books.

By the time I reached college, the whole education morality had started to crumble in front of me. Studying was to get marks, so that one could get to a company, make money, get a family, secure their future. The importance of trying to understand what is being taught had diminished within many of my fellow mates, and so it did in me. I was eager to know more, but I realized I was not going to understand a word because I had taken a course not of my choice. So I blamed myself as I left college, four years later.

But now when I am typing this, I have to say that I am quite dissatisfied by the present educational system. What I faced in college was in fact a virus that had spread to schools too. Everyone wants to pass, and get to a college. No, they do not Want to take a low course, but only engineering and medicines (and if not both, at the best, CA). Why they wanted to learn, nobody knew the answer except the common statement ‘To get a job’.

We have heard of many successful people, but most of them were not oriented towards education alone. They were oriented to knowledge, wisdom, understanding, talent, imagination and courage. Earlier educational system could provide these factors, but now the educational system has got itself oriented towards getting marks and later jobs.

People have forgotten to live in this course of life. Life is not about simply getting a job and making money, it is about doing what you want to do. There is a quote in the super hit movie 3 Idiots ‘Never run behind success, run behind perfection. Success will come behind you.’ Alas, the movie has not been able to make an impact in today’s generation.

Life is not about getting marks. When you are asked to learn Shakespeare’s ‘Julius Ceaser’, you are not expected to simply understand the grammatical points and the thought of the author, but you are meant to see what you feel when you read them. When you do a problem in Maths, it is not just to study, but to understand the importance of Maths in day to day life (apart from counting the missing amount from your salary).

There is a lot to learn about than to get educated. Break out the chains, you are not meant to be in the constraints. Choose a course of your desire, live life the way you want. Do what you like to do. Never listen to what others have to say. If you are not to listen yourself, then how can you expect the world to respond to you?

Your life, your choice.

And to the present educational system…screw yourself! You are allowed to tamper the creativity and enthusiasm in the new generation, for they are the ones to bring out a change. Education should never be to get marks, but to learn, about everything, and about life. Education should not be about certificates, because one can never be judged with a piece of paper. (If you have doubts on that, check the life of Henry Ford, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates and many as such, including Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison).

Life is to learn, understand and move ahead of time, not to get good marks so that you can end up in a cubicle. I know Venkatesh who studied well and now works for a power-plant, because he loved doing it, and I know many others who took the course because it was a better option. I know Nirmal KS, Sajeesh, Bhavin and many such who got arrears but ended up with a great job and post because they liked ding what they wanted to do, and I know people who are sulking in jobs they don’t like to do. And I know myself, for I have broken the constraints, and the whole team of my company who think the same. What you want to do is a choice.

Life and death is a choice of man, and so is how to live and how to die.

Suicide

How does it feel like to be cut into a million pieces with more than 100 wheels running over you? How does it feel like when the rope tightens around your neck? How does it feel lie when you gulp one mouthful of poison (I don't know the exact amount, and I will never try, ever)? Ending up life in just a minute, how does it feel?

I have taken a very negative topic to discuss about today, for simple reasons. I had gone to Eranakulam yesterday, and I took the train for the purpose. At Chalakudy I heard that someone jumped in front of the train, and was taken away in plastic bags. To realize that some one actually jumped under the train I was travelling was not good news to hear.

But think about the other side. Why did he kill himself? I tried a small analysis, and got across some answers. One is that he must have got bored of life. Well then, he has done the best thing, because this world is not for lazybones like him or any others.

The other reason must be that he must have lost all options in life? But seriously, does options ever end in life? People thought my options were dead, but look at me now, I am doing really fine? On the comparison basis I may not be compared to any of my school or college mates, but I can assure you that am far more happier than anyone else, all because I chose something for myself, and it was my decision and I decided to FIGHT for it. So....I can clearly say that if it was for this lame reason, he didn't try enough.

One other reason may be that the society may have ill treated him. Now this was something I had gone trough until I learned to stand up. And it is the same for every individual in life. Ill treatment never means physical or sexual torture, for it is mostly the mental torture that is painful. The society is to be blamed in our country for such actions of an individual, but seriously the man could have stood up for himself.

A better liable reason that I thought of was that, if the man is an aged man, he must have been a burden to his children one way or the other, so decided to end up his life to let them live happily, or to not see himself being thrown away by his son, or maybe he has been thrown away.....what the??? This kind of shit happens only in movies and if this had happened in real life, then he is the worst man I ever saw.

Other reasons include teenage misjudgments, love failures, family disputes, failure in some activities and so on. Statistically speaking, India is the country with most number of suicides, and frankly, three can be termed guilty in the process. One happens to be the society, who are very much orthodox and expect others to move as how they want, but won't do it for themselves. Second will be family, and I can say that not all families have a good thought for each other among themselves (most because that is the message they get through television after 7 every night). And thirdly, the individual, who can not face the reality, and can not live his dream and thus gets fed up of his life. But to be frank, the ultimate blame is for the doer than the provokers in this case.

There are some cases when girls have no choice due to reasons we all know, and for men in very certain cases, but these attribute to a lesser statistics. Everyone has got one life, which they can live in many ways, and leave only through giving up. The ultimate choice of life is in the hand of the individual, so keeping it in mind I would like everyone to say one small thing. "I shall never encourage self-murder. I shall help the one is distress if he is close to me. I shall dishearten someone is distraught. And above all, I shall close my eyes towards the society and open my inner eyes to hear the soul truth from myself alone."

This is just a simple thought from my side. Please share your ideas and views on the topic.

Who are winners?

When I look back at some instances, I couldn’t help but wonder how worse was many of my decisions, and what is going on with me. I had been against my friends from school for around 6 years, and was quite defying at college too. But 6 years in my life was not just useful in all sense, but I also could see why I had gone through such instances in the short period of 6 years.

They say you have to grow old to be a man of wisdom. Obviously, this is a false statement obtained from the elderly people who do not want the youngsters to think above the white haired men (The way I see it, the thought exists only in India and not in developed places.) The elderly men say that one has to gain education, get certificates, get a job, get a married, make money, and such.

Am not saying that this is a falsified statement, but one has to admit that this is a blinded statement exerted by the men who have not seen much of the world. They have only lived long enough around the area they grew up or travelled. To know true wisdom, one has to talk to a mountaineer, a dancer, or leading businessmen. Why? Because they are leaders of their lives.

I was once mentioned about a person who works at theatres in Bangalore. He is presently 45, and was a gold medal winner from IIT and IIM (45 years old, so imagine the time when he got the medals. This is a time when engineering was a far away post that could be obtained by rich kids). He worked, and he earned loads, and he was quite unhappy. The moment he left the job and entered the theatres, his sadness grew down to a small fact, “Why didn’t I do this earlier?” Now he is happy; he earns less, but is happy.

Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara is a movie that has to be watched by the youth of present times, who are scared to make decisions. In it says a quote “Why waste your today for an unexpected tomorrow?” People say that you have to make money and then go behind your dream. But the trouble is will there be a tomorrow to get onto our dream?

Edison had to undergo lots of spankings and ill words, until he proved himself worthy by creating a revolution, during the time when people thought inventions were not worth it. Einstein was called a fool. Newton was a donkey as per his father. Chaplin was a tramp. Shakespeare was so poor that he had to leave school and work at a horse pen. Copernicus was made to agree that the earth was the centre of the universe. And Robert Frost had to travel across the sea to be seen by the world.

But if we check history, these people are regarded the greatest in the universe, since they believed in what they could do and move forward. Then comes a prominent question asked by many of my fellow mates. “Come on! You are talking about Shakespeare and Edison. Are you any one of them?” The answer is simple. “No, I am not for I am a different individual. But if you’re considering their level of work, you have to remember that they were born just like me, and they faced many consequences in life, just like any one of us.”

Where did they make the difference that makes them apart from everyone else? A simple decision about shutting the ears to the mind, giving only the logical thoughts to the mind and listening purely to the heart made the difference for them. And thus legends were born, because a legend can never be made. Taking the history of heroes from all around the world, you will the power of will and dreams that guided each and everyone one of them, starting from the man who invented fire to Mark Zuckerberg who invented facebook.

Dreaming a dream is an easy task, but living it takes courage and a determined mind to face the world. And only those had been successful in life. So the way I see it, the essential point we all have to accept is to “Listen to the heart, and live your dream”.

So if any elderly says about their age and experience, just tell them that Buddha was only 30 when he guided half of the world to light.

God bless you all dreamers.

P.S. I had been a day dreamer for six years. I had been an active dreamer for just around 2 months. But that has made the difference in me.

Road to Irinjalakuda

Now when I am typing this, let me tell you people something. This is not a new post. This is something that had been at this area for quite long time, for around 9 years. I know this road since this is the road I have taken the most. But yes, the sign boards here are new.

This is the road that connects Christ College to Irinjalakuda Bus Stand, and for around the span of 50 meters, the gutters lie in the worst form ever seen. And I know how old these gutters are. Well, they are older than me for sure. This road had had these crates (which are much worse than the ones on moon) for so long and yet the authorities have not taken a single step for it.

What is so special about this road? Well, this is the road taken by almost all the buses that start from Thrissur, Nellayi, Kodakara, Chalakudy and more places that I can not state here. The danger is simple, that when a vehicle from the opposite appears, one has to go through these trenches, which, unfortunately, is quite deeper than the local ponds themselves.

Yes, there are crates near the Thrissur KSRTC bus stand. There are worse places in various parts of the state. But this is under the authority of the Irinjalakuda Municipality. If they can not do anything, the Thrissur district collector should do something. If they can’t then there are people in the P.W.D, who require permissions from the money schemers who only know to fill their pockets and blame the opposition.

I have once written a long letter and posted it in my blog, but well, there seems to be no use. So as for now, all of you can enjoy what the local men have done. I admire what they have, for they can do nothing more than inform the respected authorities, who I heard have taken away these placards and promised them of a better road soon. Well, Mr. Respected authority, we have been hearing false statements for quite long time, so screw yourself. If you can not do it, let us know, for we can do it. Just don’t be the dog who doesn’t eat and doesn’t let the cow eat.

Just another outburst from another helpless Indian. Ignore, or respond.

Somethng that occurred within.....

Today when I went to see my friend, I was happy. It had been long since I had seen her. I also wanted to see her grandmother who was ill, and it’s been long since I had been with her family. It was always great to be with people who lived their lives rather make others live their own.

Having some chitchats with them, at one point my friend mentioned about one of my schoolmates, and said, “Did you know that he got placed?” At once I felt like, “What the…! I mean…Wow! Isn’t that great news?”

Now let me tell you about myself. I have got 23 arrears, and haven’t even thought about clearing them. In short, I am only a high school graduate, and haven’t passed out of college. So obviously, when I heard the news, it was burning in me.

And she continued, “And ********* has also been placed.”
“He too?”
“And so is ******.”
“She too?”"And ******* got married"
"I am still single!"
"So what? Should she stop herself from getting married? And ***** is going for higher studies."

And she mentioned a dozen people. Now here is the part about jealousy. You may be really happy for your friends, but if they got a step ahead of you, and unless you are really great friends with them, you will be a lot more jealous, at least five more steps ahead than being happy for them.

Indeed, I was happy, but extremely jealous. And I can say that frankly, because even if I may be offered a position for the devil, I am never a saint. I had known half of what she had said, but hearing it altogether was not quite easy. And I was comparing myself with them, and suddenly she shot out, “Why do you have to compare yourself with them? The problem with you is that you are bothered most about you being involved in and about others.”

And that was where my bulb shined. Yes, that’s true! All my life I had been concentrated over comparing myself with others, that I had failed to recognize my own beauty. Now it doesn’t matter where they are, because they made a choice, and they are there. Now this is my party of life, I have made a choice recently, so my task now is to shut my ears and move on towards my dream (you can call it destiny). They were good at what they did, and they are doing it now, now that is exactly what I had to do…stop lamenting, start thinking and continue working.

After leaving the place I was going back home on my bike. My bike is older than the rain, because even in that rain, it was hot. But it didn’t bother me. Thoughts had been ramming in me. So foolish I had been for quite long.

There was another part of the talk, which I wouldn’t like to write out loud, but the essence is all the same. I am not a great man; I have made my share of mistakes. And I do not see them like stars shining in font of me and telling me my wrongs and rights, my friends do the part of the stars. But the least I can say is that I do learn from them.

This note is a confession statement from me. I have ignored around 107 people in my life, hated them for reasons I have made in my own mind, and that was what the jealousy that rose in me pointed out. Errors and mistakes can be corrected only by the prepared mind, and preparing it is quite a task. It is never easy apologizing, so I rather not do that unless I get the power to do it.

So why I am posting it here? To show people that if they are going through such a phase in their life, trust me…it is way too normal because the problems of mind are mostly self-created. What you want to have is your choice. Jealousy, hatred, fear, love…all is but a choice that could be chosen. I chose the wrong one unknowingly. But at least now I realize it.

Don’t trust my words. I may turn back to my thoughts again; living with the wrong thoughts for 6 years is not an easy task to be killed in 6 minutes. It will take time. But when the time comes, I shall be able to say that I am pure. Until then, I shall be jealous, and I shall be working towards my dream. And once I am set with the right mind, I shall be able to go back to them and try to be one among them as it used to be years ago and at that point I shall be at the peak of my dream. Because it is always easier to travel across the peaceful ocean than the storming one.

A message for Kerala and India....

At once I had thought of typing a letter each to some of the political leaders, including the President and prime Minister of the state. The thought rose me in some time ago, and then as time passed, and as the government got changed in the state, I realized that there was no use for this action of mine, for no matter what I did or tried to do, the political scenario will all be the same

But I had to go out of the house, to see, hear, buy, sell and many other house hold and personal things, and the certain things had me bothering. So I thought, “Why not post it here where at least some people will read?” Because this is not just the thought of an individual, but a representative of the public. So here I go.

The first notice is for our beloved Chief Minister. The man who has proved to be one of the weak leaders we ever saw, and as many know, one of the best thieves too. It is by learning upon you that I learned that politics is purely business and robbery. I learned it from your actions over the management issues of catholic colleges and the Tsunami fund. And you have practiced well to blame others too. You are one of the worst leaders I have ever heard of.

Oh, don’t you grunt, Mr. Ex-Chief Minister! You were my favorite once, because you raised your voice for good (and gave us lot harthals). Thought you could make a change. But you got 5 years too, and what did you do? You became the first leader of the state who conducted a harthal. And you made lives miserable, and this time you got to blame the Central Government. The least you could do was bring out something good to the people, like making a rule to clean the roads or whatever. But you yourself are a spit shot. Have to admit, you are only good in complaining.

The ex-chief minister has got a friend, the man famous for his bullets in the suitcase. You have a big voice, but not a good mind. So scoot off. Communism was never busi9ness. Before 1950s, it was a about the well being of people. Not it is the well being of the communist people, and you brought that stand. It is high time you get lost.

Mr. Prime Minister! You are a great mathematician and economist, and a very good man. But I have to say, you are quite incompetent as a Prime Minister. I suggest you start working harder, because you are a good man, with the wrong ideas and mistakes you always commit. You have worked real hard in increasing the value of everything from fuels to medicines, and have managed to decrease the worth of Indian Money. You can do better than this. There is a lot profit that you people take, turning politics to business. Politics is not business, it is the idea of helping people. I guess you have seen only the business part because you are an economist. Please instead of working to glutton up your pockets, work for us, or at least allow us to work. One more mistake, and I, as others did, will despise you too.

And the saintly man of God! Get back to your ashrama stopping the fast and work for the people. Before talking about black money and telling that your money is white, I want you to donate at least half of it to the poor people around. Then you will earn my respect.

India is not a land a political or religious games. India is meant to be united. India is meant to be clean. India is meant to be the great country we have never experienced.

I have no other words to say, but there are something you top people can do. You can help clean the cities. You can help do the right things You can help reduce the price hike. You can help giving more employment opportunities. You can do anything.

The civilians too can do them, but then you will not let the middle class men rise up, will you? Change the attitude, so that we can also work without interruption, for the same country you are trying to destroy. Mark my words...Kalki will be reborn because of you people. Or maybe another Gandhi will arise to stop you discriminating acts.

This is the words from a simple Indian, who may respond once, for he is one among the many Indians you have ignored to see.